My friend thinks he’s ugly, I want to show her how many people disagree.
he is insanely gorgeous
“ATTRACTIVE” DOESN’T REALLY COVER IT
Ugly? The first thing I’d check here is whether that person still have eyes…
He is so pretty. And precious. And Adorable. And… unf.
I think he’s a bit of a slow burn, so this friend should give it more time. Richard is a very attractive, enigmatic person who quite set my heart a flutter when I met him. And Gabriel, by extension, is adorable and in need of love.
i hope people realize that when i wear my shirt a unbuttoned a little too low it’s not a “i want people to see my cleavage” thing because it’s not that and i don’t even unbutton it low enough for that but it’s me channeling Jeff Goldbum as Dr. Ian Malcolm
Open a bank account or get a credit card without signed permission from her father or hr husband.
Serve on a jury - because it might inconvenience the family not to have the woman at home being her husband’s helpmate.
Obtain any form of birth control without her husband’s permission. You had to be married, and your hub and had to agree to postpone having children.
Get an Ivy League education.
Ivy League schools were men’s colleges ntil the 70′s and 80′s. When
they opened their doors to women it was agree that women went there for
their MRS. Degee.
Experience equality in the workplace: Kennedy’s
Commission on the Status of Women produced a report in 1963 that
revealed, among other things, that women earned 59 cents for every
dollar that men earned and were kept out of the more lucrative
professional positions.
Keep her job if she was pregnant.Until the Pregnancy Discrimination Act in 1978, women were regularly fired from their workplace for being pregnant.
Refuse to have sex with her husband.The mid 70s saw most states recognize marital rape and in 1993 it became criminalized
in all 50 states. Nevertheless, marital rape is still often treated
differently to other forms of rape in some states even today.
Get a divorce with some degree of ease.Before the No Fault Divorce
law in 1969, spouses had to show the faults of the other party, such as
adultery, and could easily be overturned by recrimination.
Have a legal abortion in most states.The Roe v. Wade case in 1973 protected a woman’s right to abortion until viability.
Play college sports
Title IX of the Education
Amendments of protects people from discrimination based
on sex in education programs or activities that receive Federal
financial assistance
It was nt until this statute that colleges had teams for women’s sports
Apply for men’s Jobs
The EEOC rules that
sex-segregated help wanted ads in newspapers are illegal. This ruling
is upheld in 1973 by the Supreme Court, opening the way for women to
apply for higher-paying jobs hitherto open only to men.
This is why we needed feminism - this is why we know that feminism works
I just want to reiterate this stuff, because I legit get the feeling there are a lot of younger women for whom it hasn’t really sunk in what it is today’s GOP is actively trying to return to.
Did you go to a good college? Shame on you, you took a college placement that could have gone to a man who deserves and needs it to support or prepare for his wife & children. But if you really must attend college, well, some men like that, you can still get married if you focus on finding the right man.
Got a job? Why? A man could be doing that job. You should be at home caring for a family. You shouldn’t be taking that job away from a man who needs it (see college, above). You definitely don’t have a career – you’ll be pregnant and raising children soon, so no need to worry about promoting you.
This shit was within living memory.
I’M A MILLENIAL and my mother was in the second class that allowed women at an Ivy League school.
Men who are alive today either personally remember shit like this or have parents/family who have raised them into thinking this was the way America functioned back in the blissful Good Old Days. There are literally dudes in the GOP old enough to remember when it was like this and yearn for those days to return.
When people talk about resisting conservativism and the GOP, we’re not just talking about whether the wage gap is a myth or not. We’re talking about whether women even have the fundamental right to exist as individuals, to run their own households and compete for jobs and be considered on an equal footing with men in any arena at all in the first place.
I was a child in the 1960s, a teenager in the 1970s, a young adult in the 1980s. This is what it was like:
When I was growing up, it was considered unfortunate if a girl was good at sports. Girls were not allowed in Little League. Girls’ teams didn’t exist in high school, except at all-girls’ high schools. Boys played sports, and girls were the cheerleaders.
People used to ask me as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said I wanted to be a brain surgeon or the first woman justice on the Supreme Court. Everyone told me it was impossible–those just weren’t realistic goals for a girl–the latter, especially, because you couldn’t trust women to judge fairly and rationally, after all.
In the 1960s and 1970s, all women were identified by their marital status, even in arrest reports and obituaries. In elementary school, my science teacher referred to Pierre Curie as DOCTOR Curie and Marie Curie as MRS. Curie…because, as he put it, “she was just his wife.” (Both had doctorates and both were Nobel prize winners, so you would think that both would be accorded respect.)
Companies could and did require women to wear dresses and skirts. Failure to do could and did get women fired. And it was legal. It was also legal to fire women for getting married or getting pregnant. The rationale was that a woman who was married or who had a child had no business working; that was what her husband was for. Aetna Insurance, the biggest insurance company in America, fired women for all of the above.
A man could rape his wife. Legally. I can remember being twelve years old and reading about legal experts actually debating whether or not a man could actually be said to coerce his wife into having sex. This was a serious debate in 1974.
The debate about marital rape came up in my law school, too, in 1984. Could a woman be raped by her husband? The guys all said no–a woman got married, so she was consenting to sex at all times. So I turned it around. I asked them if, since a man had gotten married, that meant that his wife could shove a dildo or a stick or something up his ass any time she wanted to for HER sexual pleasure.
(Hey, I thought it was reasonable. If one gender was legally entitled to force sex on the other, then obviously the reverse should also be true.)
The male law students didn’t like the idea. Interestingly, they commented that being treated like that would make them feel like a woman.
My reaction was, “Thank you for proving my point…”
The concept of date rape, when first proposed, was considered laughable. If a woman went out on a date, the argument of legal experts ran, sexual consent was implied. Even more sickening was the fact that in some states–even in the early 1980s–a man could rape his daughter…and it was no worse than a misdemeanor.
Women taking self-defense classes in the 1970s and 1980s were frequently described in books and on TV as “cute.” The implication was that it was absurd for a woman to attempt to defend herself, but wasn’t it just adorable for her to try?
I was expressly forbidden to take computer classes in junior and senior years of high school–1978-79 and 1979-80–because, as the principal told me, “Only boys have to know that kind of thing. You girls are going to get married, and you won’t use it.”
When I was in college–from 1980 to 1984–there were no womens’ studies. The idea hadn’t occurred in many places because the presumption was that there was nothing TO study. My history professor–a man who had a doctorate in history–informed me quite seriously that women had never produced a noted painter, sculptor, composer, architect or scientist because…wait for it…womens’ brains were too small.
(He was very surprised when I came up with a list of fifty women gifted in the arts and science, most of whom he had never heard of before.)
When Walter Mondale picked Geraldine Ferraro as a running mate in 1984, the press hailed it as a disaster. What would happen, they asked fearfully, if Mondale died and Ferraro became president? What if an international crisis arose and she was menstruating? She could push the nuclear button in a fit of PMS! It would be the end of the WORLD!!
…No, they WEREN’T kidding.
On the surface, things are very different now than they were when I was a child, a teen and a young adult. But I’m afraid that people now do not realize what it was like then. I’ve read a lot of posts from young women who say that they are not feminists. If the only exposure to feminism they have is the work of extremists, I cannot blame them overmuch.
I wish that I could tell them what feminism was like when it was new–when the dream of legal equality was just a dream, and hadn’t even begun to come true. When “woman’s work” was a sneer–and an overt putdown. When people tut-tutted over bright and athletic girls with the words, “Really, it’s a shame she’s not a boy.” That lack of feminism wasn’t all men opening doors and picking up checks. A lot of it was an attitude of patronizing contempt that hasn’t entirely died out, but which has become less publicly acceptable.
I wish I could make them feel what it was like…when grown men were called “men” and grown women were “girls.”
Know your history.
So this, too, is what they mean saying “make America great again” and/or the good old days.
REBLOG FOREVER.
I am 70. I remember all those things. I was a student nurse from 64 to 67 and we were not permitted to “finish” a bed bath on a male or insert a catheter in a male. Seeing male genitals might cause us “harm” or upset our delicate sensibilities. Imagine when we graduated and were “thrown” to the wolves. Imagine if you were a male patient who had to be the first to be “practiced” on by a graduate nurse. (Ha!) At the school I attended no student nurse could be married. Only one school in my city (Atlanta) would even admit married women and Male Nurses weren’t even thought of. What man would want to be a nurse when he could be a Doctor. In all my training I only remember 3 or 4 Women who were Doctor’s and a very few, (less than 5 or 6) female interns or residents (and this was a teaching hospital) and most of those were OB/Gyns and one was a pediatrician.
When I graduated and was going to get married I wanted to go on birth control pills. You needed to be on them for a least one cycle before they were effective. I won’t go into what hoops I had to jump through to get a prescription from my Dr. (a man, natch) but when i went to the drug store to get the prescription filled I ended up having to get my future husband to “accompany” me so the pharmacist “interview” him and see if it was okay with him for me to be on the pill.
Even when we went to get a marriage license I had to get my Father’s signature and we had to go before a Judge because I was not yet 21 (I was 20 and 9 months).
I could go on and on, getting a credit card in MY name, etc., but I will tell you that WE MUST RESIST.
The number of people I know who romanticize gender inequality is frankly terrifying. A world never existed in which the lives of women were simplified by benevolent men who saw to her every want and need. That was not a thing. A world never existed in which women were all ladies, men were all gentlemen, & everything was some great big cishet fairytale. Feminists aren’t a bunch of upstarts who want to destroy a perfectly wholesome and non-harmful system. Just…look at history. Look at the posts above.
We. Must. Resist..
About 8: The State of New York only added No-Fault Divorce as an option in 2010 (!!!)
Hello! Can you describe relationship between ENTP and ESTJ, ENTP is daughter and ESTJ is mother?
Likely a lot of tension between a no-nonsense, ‘pick a career and make something of yourself’ ESTJ mother and a free-spirited, forgetful, somewhat scatterbrained ENTP daughter.
Best case scenario: ENTP teaches ESTJ better Ne development, openness to new experiences and ideas, and how to see things from multiple perspectives; ESTJ teaches ENTP follow-through and focus, aiding in their inferior Si development.
Worst case scenario: ESTJ thinks ENTP is feckless, preoccupied with intellectual nothingness (endless conversation that produces nothing), and lazy; ENTP thinks ESTJ is boring, closed-minded, and too demanding of results.
Not really an important question, I'm just curious. I read in one of the answers to an ask, of ENTP Mod describing the feel, or energy of the enneagram type 7 with different wings. I'm just curious on what the other enneagram types, with wings, energy would be. This is what I read "7w6 has a lighter energy, a fantasy oriented feel to them. 7w8 has a darker, earthier, gritty flavour to it".
Let’s shake the magic 8 - ball and see what pops ;)
Disclaimer: Don’t take it seriously. Just doing this for fun.
1w2 - Like a concentrated hurricane. A ripple of do gooder energy/must punish transgressors kind of energy. Like Hermione at the height of her passionate speeches about S.P.E.W.
1w9 - That cool, smooth feeling of the last drop sliding down your throat; or like condensed water droplets that have formed a dewy surface around the glass; or a sheet of water frozen over.
2w1 - Priestly vibes (not Miranda Priestly, LOL). Like shelter against a storm. The thickness and warmth of shock blankets. Captain America helping you up, and leaving without receiving his thanks cuz that’s just what he does.
2w3 - Blue and gold, straight up Betty Cooper vibes. Your cappuccino served with foam art and a flourish. Freakshakes. Glitter bath bombs. The smell of fresh bread that wafts by you when you walk past the baker’s.
3w2 - Champagne trays. Sodium powered lights. A blur of heads at an event for schmoozing. The warm hand that presses down on your shoulder lightly to make sure you turn around and give the cameras a big, bright smile. Raucous, fake laughter.
3w4 - Cool. Slick. Professional. The one who fits in everywhere, yet belongs nowhere. Like trying to catch swirling mist. Steely smiles, hiding away secrets you will never know.
4w3 - A unique art print, that hangs in an exclusive gallery. The hyperbolic expression of ecstasy and tragedy meshed together. Your body is a canvas, you are the story teller. You are the messenger, and the muse. Colourful vortex of emotions shot through a paintgun, shot everywhere.
4w5 - The cold, grey fog that envelops you. Your breath is coming out in wisps before you. Goth vibes. Dark and dramatic, slightly intimidating vibes as you might get in Act 1 or 2 of an Agatha Christie story or as Jonathan is being driven up to the castle by Dracula. The comfort of a grey hoodie. Wuthering Heights.
5w4 - Elusive. Those spots of coloured light you see swirling in the sunlight. Glitter against a dark sky. Raw, unconfined wonder. A work of art so abstract, it defies definition. The lip curled upward in derisive amusement when the satirist knows you didn’t get their piece.
5w6 - Sterile and pristine environment of a lab. Everything is white and scrubbed down clean. A barely there aroma of lemon lingers in the air. Sharp glass. Apparatus, beakers, measures. Precise. Cold metal.
6w5 - Perfectly pressed uniforms. A pot of black coffee simmering away. The Dark Knight. The coaxing of pottery by repetitive application of a firm hand and heat, to mud.
6w7 - Small, unsure smiles. Comfortable knit wear in pastel shades. Cherry blossoms. Storm in a teacup. Puns, laughter and witty retorts. Elizabeth Bennet.
7w6 - Glitter. Fireflies. Children’s smiles. Fantastic quests. A rich inner world, so beautiful and intricate the real world could possibly never live up to that. Big laughs, despite anxiety swirling in the gut. (Mental) Pinterest boards.
7w8 - Lightning striking the ground. The smell and feel of a leather jacket. The aroma of petrol and paint. The crunch of boots when you hit the ground running. The sharp whizzing of an arrow hitting its mark. Fire - throwers/blowers; and sword swallowers.
8w7 - Kittens and puppies. Lol, just kidding. The screech of tires on a street. The smell of burning rubber. The aroma of petrol and paint. The adrenaline rush, when you throw a grenade or smoke bomb and run for cover. An abyss of colour and frenetic energy. Pulsating strobe lights. Dark mystique. Swinger parties.
8w9 - Large flannel shirts. The calm before the storm hits. Musky scents. Being one with nature. Calm, centred, simmering with internal anger. Protective. Thick leather jackets. Camouflage. Trammelling on with heavy boots, on hard ground. Fierce yet tender. Bear - like. Moats and fortresses.
9w8 - A dormant volcano. The expression of Nature’s long repressed rage. Fragile glass suddenly shattering. Neatly arranged papers, rustling and flying about in the strong winds. Angry, red crescent marks on your skin because you keep clenching painfully as you get angrier, but say nothing and keep the smile firmly plastered on your face.
9w1 - Soft pastels. The humdrum of the copier machine running smoothly, and without change as it should change. Satiny bows. Arrangements for high tea done the Enid Blyton way. Precise and perfect tiers of scones and sandwiches with dips, jams and jellies. Baking to unwind.
There you go, hope that is as fun reading for you as it was for me writing all this stuff up :))
7w6: Sevens are the quintessential explorers of the Enneagram. They escape from fear using joy and positivity. Taken to extremes, Sevens can fall into hedonistic escapism. At their healthy best, they are visionaries capable of taking ideas from multiple contexts and synthesizing them into a whole new picture, or innovate upon them to make them bigger and better. When there is a 6-wing, the natural zestful and optimistic behavior of the Seven is tempered by the 6’s desire to form allies, and be liked by people who can keep them safe. People of this type are often found in show business. Many sevens are drawn towards the performing arts, improv, comedy etc.
Main fears include entrapment, boredom, being tied down, deprivation, losing security and stability, losing allies and support system, abandonment and betrayal. This is a 7 that’s anxious to be liked; fantasy oriented, can tend to get lost in their mental fantasies of living out their dreams than actually going out and doing so. The 6-wing lends an element of caution and slows down the generally spontaneous and impulsive 7 that believes in Carpe Diem.
Worst case scenario: They get hyper picky, panicky, fussy over tiny and obscure details, harsh, testy and perfectionistic. They get overly suspicious, paranoid and prefer to trust nobody but themselves. They can end up overworking themselves because they don’t trust anybody else to deliver on the same level as they would, or execute their vision the way they would want it. Phobic sixes will explore for a while, in order to test out and find reliable systems and individuals to cling to. The 7w6 will soar knowing it has established roots. The counter phobic 6 wing can lend it to question and defy systems, deliberately go against people to just see how far they can push. Superficially, the 7w6 can look like a 7w8 because of their behavior, but deep down their motivation, fears and desires are very different.
7w8: Exploratory, expansive, warm and gregarious individuals. Their main focus is on freedom, fun, innovation and exploration. Their main fear is entrapment and enslavement. They would also never want to have their freedom curtailed, not be without options, or be controlled/manipulated by someone. This is a bold visionary, who is aggressive and will do what needs to be done in order to bring their goals and dreams to fruition. More likely to want to “stick it to The Man”. Tyler Durden from Fight Club is a 7w8. Imaginative but realistic. They are able to spot potential and opportunities, and act on it in a swift and decisive fashion. Confident and outgoing. In their quest for fun and/or progress, the 7w8 may run slipshod over someone else’s feelings. They won’t realize because they are running full steam ahead to execute their project, with enthusiasm. 7w8s infuse high energy into all that they do. At their worst they can be arrogant, abusive and manipulative bullies obsessed with quality and perfection. Also, when unhealthy they can fall into the grips of hedonism as an escape hatch. When healthy, they can be highly energetic and enthusiastic promoters and executors of ideas. They can be fun company to have around, a visionary who is bold and realistic, will certainly know how to show others a good time as this is often archetypally representative of the Rockstar.
Sevens and the Perceiving function axis:
NeSi, SiNe: In ENxPs, core 7 produces the stereotypical Ne dominant behavior. These are the ones whose types stand out clearly because their cognition is in congruence with their behavioral motivations as well. 7-Ne users often make for great storytellers and comedians, since they are so good at making random associations between separately existing ideas, and know how to present it in a fun format. They have no qualms playing up certain details for dramatic or comedic effect. Quick thinkers, idea people, their enthusiasm is unparalleled when they cotton on to an idea. 7-Ne is always looking to the future, the next bigger, brighter thing. 7-Ne is sort of like the Angel investor, in that aspect. Because of this, there is very little interest in detail or looking to past precedents which just amplifies inferior Si. There is also a shade of faux Se with how open minded they are and ready to jump into experiences like an Se user but the reasoning behind it will always be completely different. Si-7 makes for healthy Si being open to new experiences and categorize those for future use.
SeNi, NiSe: In SeNi, it amps up the Se’s lust for life and the hankering to physically interact with the world. They will be hopping from place to place, without a semblance of a solid plan in place because they would find it threatening to their sense of autonomy. In NiSe users, 7 would detach Ni even further from reality, they would be strongly assertive and stubborn when it comes to protecting their freedom. They will shy away from making any kind of commitments, and a flare - up of inferior Se causes them to plunge into sensory experiences as an escape hatch.
Sevens and the Judging function axis:
TiFe, FeTi: 7 makes TPs curious about the world around them. Mental explorers. They are also bound to look faux Ne ish because of how open minded and receptive to ideas 7 makes, as also how they pick up information through their various experiences and process them to add to their elegant, internal logical framework. TPs wouldn’t cope well with emotional situations or people, they would rather escape to where the grass is greener and it is less dramatic (and therefore safer) to come back. Seemingly more extroverted because of their willingness to interact with the outside world. Can end up doing some really weird, out there stuff *for science*.
FJ will want to create a positive atmosphere for everyone, a kind of idealistic utopia where everybody can have fun and forget their troubles (at least the 7). They would be good at convincing people with the sheer force of their enthusiasm, to get on their side. FJ will sort of try to enforce a fun mood in the group, as oxymoron like as it may sound. Sevens hate negativity of any kind and FJs being sensitive to that, feel a personal responsibility to perk up the room. (ExTPs also feel this way)
TeFi, FiTe: ExTJs can be great visionaries and work hard to bring their vision to fruition regardless of wing, although six will bring a little less of an edge and more of a bent towards anxiety about it being liked/accepted. TJs tend to work hard, party hard. There is a tug between cognition and desire/motivation. So while they are hardworking, they will charge under detail oriented, routine work that puts them in a rut or doesn’t excite them, or ties them down. FPs will cherish their freedom greatly. They will be the zany explorer, happy go lucky and avoiding all kinds of negativity either in situations or around people. They will carefully cut out negative people or just ghost on them for a but till it is okay to get back. TJ has no sympathy for whiners when there is so much work to do and fun to be had. FP will not stand for the violation of their personal autonomy, either at work or in relationships. These people will be harder to tie down, because they are ever entranced by the flighty mistress of possibility. That there is something out there which could be better for them than the present reality.
